15 Signs You Have Chosen The Perfect Guy

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Many Women aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship should look like in the first place…

People oftentimes find themselves wondering how certain women end up with the type of partners they date or even have long term relationships with…

Why don’t they [women] just walk away if they don’t get what they think they deserve from their “teammate”, as it were?

It so happens, however, a big part of the problem is that many people aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship should look like in the first place or how a “good man” (or companion) should act towards their partner.

To help out a little bit, we have put together this list; how a good man should act while in a relationship. Who knows; perhaps the points on this list will be perfect telltale signs for you [and any woman for that matter] to know if they are going out with a good partner or not.

  1. He Will Always Remind You How Much He Loves You

A man who really loves you will always make you feel loved, wanted or appreciated. This is really important, A good man will always remind you how much you mean to him.

If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If they don’t, you’ll be wondering all the time if they do.

  1. He Will Always Be Your Strong Pillar

In whatever it is that you want to pursue – whether you want to start a business or stay at home to raise a kids, a good man will always support you with what you want out of your life.

He will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t do what you decided to do. He will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your difficulties.

  1. He Will Inspire You

To inspire someone takes effort both in how one lives their own life and how they encourage others to live theirs. A good man’s drive and ambition will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions.

  1. He Will Make Sure To Gain Your Trust

A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship. The very cornerstone of this is being able to trust someone, and he will realize that.

Without trust, there is no foundation for love or respect. He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone — it has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.

  1. He Will Always Make You Feel Pretty

He will understand that making you feel beautiful does not just mean saying the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful. In the way he looks at you, touches you and treats you.

He will notice details when you put effort into your appearance and remind you how attractive he still finds you, even when you don’t.

A good man will understand that whether you are in your sweatpants on the couch or in your evening gown heading to a gala, when you love someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes beautiful.

  1. He Will Make You Feel Safe

One of the best compliments a woman can give her partner is telling him that she feels safe around him.

Regardless of how attracted he is to you or how funny you think he is or even how much money he has; if a woman cannot sleep soundly by his side at night, none of that vanity matters.

  1. He Does The Little Things

Regardless of how small certain things seem, he will understand they are really the big things that matter most… whether it’s a concert or a movie, he’ll go the extra mile for you.

  1. He Never Crosses The Line

It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a relationship, but there is no reason to make things personal, insult or even become abusive. A good man will remain calm and focus on the topic at hand.

  1. He Is Always Trying To Improve Himself

Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill, reading a new book or watching a documentary, a good man who prides himself on continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging to you and will keep your attention.

He will be doing these things for himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on your relationship.

  1. He Understands Actions Speak Louder Than Words.

Having the right man in your life will make you understand that people who make empty promises do not deserve your respect. People who keep promises deserve your respect, and he will be one of them.

  1. He Will Open Up To You

It can be difficult for some people to express their emotions, fears and even inner-most desires, but having the right person in our lives often helps to open those doors.

A good man, while understanding of course that some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from you or bottle up his feelings, knowing that doing so will cause tension and frustration.

  1. A Good Man Will Always Be Honest With You

When building a foundation for a happy,  healthy relationship, a good man will understand that honesty is always the best policy .

  1. He Will Make You Feel Comfortable Being Honest

Comfort in a relationship comes from the ability to be open and honest with your partner and the ability to do this comes from knowing you will never be judged.

A good, genuine, uncensored version of yourself around him.

  1. He Will Never Be Abusive

Perhaps the most important point of all is this. Whether it be mentally, emotionally or physically fatigued, a good man will never even think about being abusive towards you or harmful in any way.

If this happens to you, please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like this, and it will not get better on its own.

  1. He Will Stand By You

When a man commits his love and his time to someone, there are no stipulations or circumstances required. There will be good times and there will be not-so-good times. There will be challenges and unexpected situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your teammate through it

Please note: This does not mean you can disrespect your partner, lie or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you.

This point is about things the two of you go through together and him having the integrity to not walk away when times get hard. Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days.

Remember, if the person you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him. No matter how kind someone is, there is no emptier feeling than giving your heart to someone who you feel takes it for granted.

Source: Huffington Post, Life Hack, Times of India, Counselor Suzie Kibirango

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